Suicide - It's Not An Escape!

Suicide - It's Not An Escape!

In a society like the West - that prides itself for freedom and liberty to attain maximum happiness, suicide ought to be the furthest from the mind?  Yet it is not an uncommon practice and may be someone who is close to you and opens up to you and you may be the only person who can help.  Suicide, resorted to in times of crisis as an end to those worries, is not only prohibited in Islam but it is also not an escape.  This article illustrates how Islam provides an alternative that is worth living for!

All praise and gratitude is to Allah – our Creator, Provider and the Maintainer of all the worlds.

In Allah’s care…
He brought together the sperm and the ovum from deep within two separate individuals, lodged the fertilized egg safely and prepared the uterus for the creation of a life – helpless and dependent on its Creator from the day of conception and beyond its birth, the vibrant youth, prudent adulthood up to its death at a senile old age and beyond to another life – its real home.  Not a day passes except that the same Creator sustains this life – and the six billion others like it on the planet – with attention to the most minute of its needs.  It breathes effortlessly without even noticing the complex art and perfection in the organs that enable it. 

Why despair then…
With such care and attention for detail in each individual, is it then warranted to despair of the help of the most Merciful?

Along the same lines we find these verses in the Quran, (their translation) “Has there not been over man a period of time, when he was not a thing worth mentioning?  Verily, We have created man from a drop of mixed fluid (of man and woman) in order to try him so We made him a hearer and seer.  Verily, We showed him the way (gave him guidance in all matters), whether he be grateful or ungrateful (lit. kafoor i.e. who conceals and denies the favours or signs of Allah).  [Surah Insan 76:1-3]

For us is to worship and the provision is from Him…
He created us with such care and attention for a noble purpose and assured us that He will sustain and look after each and every need.  He informs in the Quran, (its translation) “I did not create the Jinn or the human except that they worship me; I do not want any provision from them (neither for themselves nor for any creatures) nor do I seek that they should feed Me (i.e. provide for whom I provide). Verily, Allah He is the Provider (of all), possessor of Power, the Most Strong.”  [Surah Dhariyat 51:56-58]

Why the trials and hardship…
Thus Allah took the responsibility of providing for and looking after all affairs of each and every individual and reassured He is the One fully capable of that.  Our concern is not to be anxious even in the most trying circumstance for Allah promised to provide a way out; rather our concern is to worship Him by living a life of obedience to Him and excellence in every walk of life.  Any hardship faced is no more than a trial to prove that our only concern is the approval of our actions by Allah before anyone else in the community and even before our own pleasure.  Allah promised in the Quran, “Alif, Lam, Mim, do people think that they will be left alone on (merely) saying: ‘We believe,’ and not be tested (in their claims)?  We have indeed tested those who were before them; and Allah will certainly make it known those who were truthful and He will certainly make known the liars.”  [Surah Ankabut 29:1-2]   

Thus suicide forbidden in Quran and hadith…
Given that Allah promised to undertake the sustenance and any delay thereafter or withholding of any of its needs being merely for a trial, then there is no room for a person to take away the life that Allah has created for an important purpose and meticulously sustaining it each second for that purpose.  He prohibited the destroying of ones life in any manner as understood by the general meaning of the wording of this verse, “And do not throw (yourselves) with your own hands to destruction; but work (deeds of) excellence for verily Allah loves the people of excellence.”  [Surah Baqarah 2:195]   Thus we are ordered to not destroy ourselves rather to direct the mind and energies to doing good deeds that please Allah.  In another verse, “And do not kill yourselves. Surely, Allaah is Most merciful to you.”  [Surah Nisaa 4:29]

In fact the taking of even one life is regarded as the taking of the life of the whole of mankind, “Whoever kills a soul – unless for another soul or for corruption (vice and mischief spread) in the land – it is as if he had slain the whole of mankind.  And whoever saves one – it is as if he had saved the whole of mankind.” [Surah Ma’idah 5:32]  The noun, soul (nafs) in the verse is without the definite particle. In Arabic, an indefinite noun in a conditional clause gives the meaning of generality and comprehensiveness.  Thus, the verse is not only concerning the taking of a soul of another person but even ones own life for both are souls created and entrusted to us by Allah.  This is not only prohibited but strongly condemned as though he killed the whole of mankind.

The Messenger of Allah (May the peace and blessings be on him) also prohibited it as learnt from the following hadith.  "Whoever throws himself down from a mountain and kills himself, he will be in the Fire of Hell throwing himself down for ever and ever. Whoever drinks poison and kills himself will have the poison in his hand, drinking it in the Fire of Hell for ever and ever. Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron (i.e. a weapon) will have that piece of iron in his hand, stabbing himself in the stomach with it in the Fire of Hell forever and ever." (Compiled in Sahih Bukhari).

The pain of suicide is for ever…
A person, who commits suicide, does so believing it an escape from his crisis so he ends his life willing to bear a moment of pain and may throw himself of a cliff.  Yet this hadith shows that he actually brings upon himself that pain not just momentarily but again and again in Hell-fire.

But from His mercy He may forgive suicide – so why not stay alive in His mercy…
However, from the mercy of Allah, the Exalted, He may forgive any sin committed by a person no matter how grave or He may punish in this life or in Hell-fire, except for Shirk.  Associating partners to Allah (Shirk) in divinity and Lordship is the only sin that Allah does not forgive.  The one doing shirk may seek forgiveness from the partner he claims to Allah in divinity but he is seeking forgiveness from someone who doesn’t have the authority to forgive!  This principle of forgiveness is established clearly in the Quran, “Verily Allah does not forgive that you set up partners with Him but He forgives anything else for whoever He wishes.”  [Surah Nisaa 4:48] 

A person who is confident of the mercy of Allah in forgiving him for committing suicide, shouldn’t he have the same confidence that if he doesn’t commit suicide, Allah from His mercy and care will alleviate his hardship and distress?  If it takes time, it is no more than a temporary trial.

A day’s worth for a Muslim…
An extra day alive is that much longer to work good deeds to distance oneself from the eternal torment of Hell-fire and a golden opportunity to win a better place in Paradise.  It is for deserving of this mercy of Allah and a Paradise which no eye has ever seen, nor any ear has ever heard nor conceived by any mind, it is for this a Muslim is directed to strive every moment he is alive by the favour of Allah.  A Believer capitalizes on each breath Allah allows him – only the ignorant would throw away such a bargain!  Allah says (translated it means), “And whoever does good equal to the weight of an atom (or a small ant) will see it (on the Day of Resurrection to be rewarded) and whoever does mischief equal to the weight of an atom shall see it.”  [Surah Zalzalah 99:7-8]00

Reassurances in Quran  and a purpose to live…
Thus a person contemplating suicide finds reassurance in the Quran and purpose for life.  He finds an explanation for ease or hardship.  He realizes that every hardship expiates for his sins and elevates his rank in Paradise.  He thus finds internal peace and pleasure even in external hardship and suffering and strives to acquire or lose the eternal comfort in the Hereafter.  The feelings of depression, anxiety, hopelessness and self-loathing diminish as a Believer contemplates on the message of the Quran, reflects on life and patterns the life according to its wise injunctions.  Initially, this achievement may be for moments only but with time and following the guidance of the Quran it may become a constant state.

Mixing with people…
The effectiveness of this process can be enhanced tremendously by interaction with other people, righteous Muslims and especially the people with Islamic knowledge and counselors.  As negative feelings develop and pessimism sets in, they can draw attention to vital realities of life and the Hereafter as well as be the encouraging spirit.  Not everyone will be sensitive nor can the person open up to just anyone, however it is good to at least with some who is understanding and able to help.  As for those who make the person feel worthless for reasons that are insignificant in Allah’s sight, not interacting with them is understandable.

Self-worth… with people…and with Allah…
No matter how insignificant a person is in the eyes of his peers, he is important enough in the sight of Allah that He created him with such care from even before birth.  The society judges a person for wealth, power, success in career, physical attraction and other worldly traits.  But a person who has none of this or has lost everything may still be the dearest to Allah, the angels and the believers who are rightly guided!  In Islam, the worth of an individual is solely based on taqwa – God consciousness that produces righteousness and piety.  A peasant or a bankrupt businessman may be superior to a CEO of the most successful organization on earth – if he excels in taqwa!  Allah makes this point clear in the Quran, (its translation reads) “O mankind, We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honourable of you with Allah is that (believer) who has the most taqwa (piety).  Verily, Allah is All-Knowing, All-aware.”  [Surah Hujurat 49:13]

Even at times of weakness, step at a time…
Although reassured that in the sight of Allah the worthiness of an individual is measured only by taqwa, a person may still be weary - especially at times of high stress, depression and anxiety - of him being able to attain this taqwa and self-worth.

Yet the Quran inspires and motivates even the weakest of the Believers to achieve the highest success.  Allah declares in the Quran reassuringly, “Whoever works righteousness – whether male or female – while he (or she) is a Believer, verily, to him We will give a good life (in this life with contentment etc), and certainly We shall give them a reward (in the eternal Hereafter) according to the best of what they used to do.”  [Surah Nahl 16:97]  Thus when overwhelmed by stress and concerns, doing noble and pious deeds may seem far, but a believer finds reassurance that he or she will be rewarded by the best acts he does at any time in his life and momentary lapses may well be forgiven by Allah the Oft-Forgiving, Merciful. 

And at that moment of trauma when little seems possible, a believer is reminded in the Quran, “And whoever does good equal to the weight of an atom (or a small ant) will see it (on the Day of Resurrection to be rewarded) and whoever does mischief equal to the weight of an atom shall see it.”  [Surah Zalzalah 99:7-8]  So instead of despair, a believer is found unconcerned of the society’s estimation of him or of a major worldly loss, there is neither grief over what destroyed the past nor anxiety over what the future holds, rather the only concern is to do even an atoms weight of good at that difficult moment – even if it is merely persevering patiently till a better moment later on when big acts of piety can be performed because eventually the reward from Allah, the most Merciful, is in accordance to the best actions performed by the person.  In fact patiently persevering in such a difficult moment may rank as the best of deeds!

Even the worst moment can actually become the best…
In fact not a moment passes by in the life of a Muslim even if a catastrophe befalls him, except that it can be a success and a bonus for the Believer if he bears it patiently!  Even while overwhelmed by grief, anxieties and a desire to finish it all with suicide, merely holding on till it passes away even without doing any other good deed in that state can actually turn that depressing moment into one of triumph and sure success so why resort to suicide then?  The Messenger of Allah (may the peace and blessings be on him) said, “The case of a believer is amazing!  Every affair of his is good for him, and this is not for anyone except a believer: if he experiences something pleasant, he is grateful to Allah and that is good for him; and if he comes across some adversity, he is patiently persevering (i.e. has sabr) and that too is good for him!” [Compiled in Sahih Muslim]

In fact we learn from another hadith that, “When Allah wants well for a slave of His, He hastens the punishment in this world (rather than the severe and eternal Hereafter).  And when Allah wants for His slave bad, He withholds from him (the punishment for) his sin until he takes it from him on the Day of Resurrection.”  [An authentic hadith collected by Tirmidhi]  Thus the one suffering hardship may actually be more beloved to Allah than one who is being left and not punished despite sins and impiety.   The Prophet informed, “Nothing strikes a Muslim – no fatigue, illness, worry, grief, hurt nor sorrow; not even a prick of a thorn – except that Allah wipes off due to it some of his sins.” [Collected in Sahih of Bukhari & Muslim]

Even if his world seems to be falling apart…
With a sense of worth for even the smallest good deeds, a believer bears the most trying of hardships reassured that as the Messenger of Allah said, “Verily, the greatness of the reward is with the greatness (or severity) of the trial.  Verily if Allah loves a people He tries them (with trials).”  [An authentic hadith collected by Tirmidhi]

Thus, what may seem to another as his world falling apart in front of his eyes and nothing to live for, a Believer sees in the same an equally great world of unending bliss and comfort being prepared for him or her in Paradise so long as he bears it with patience for although this life is for being tried repetitively, “Verily along with every difficulty is relief (that comes thereafter).”  [Surah Inshirah 94:6] 

The relief is near – a guarantee from Allah…
If the relief doesn’t come immediately, it’s not far.  This, Allah guarantees, “Or did you think that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) that came to those who passed away before you?  They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, ‘When will come the help of Allah?’  Yes!  Certainly, the help of Allah is near!”  [Surah Baqarah 2:214].

So why then would anyone want to commit suicide!!
It is not surprising then, with such compelling reasons to live for and reassurances of help, Allah warned of some of the most severe punishments for the one who ends his own life – a life that in fact belongs to Allah!  As the above mentioned hadith of the punishment of the one who committed suicide shows, the self-infliction of the same fatal blow repeatedly in hell-fire again and again, a person who commits suicide hasn’t found an escape from his worries; in fact, it’s just the beginning.

Answered by Sheikh Aslam Hussain, graduate of Madinah University in Shariah.

Islam and Homosexuality

Islam and Homosexuality 

A Collection of Articles dealing with this subject:
The Qur'an and Homosexuality:
There are five references in the Qur'an which have been cited as referring to gay and lesbian behavior. Some obviously deal with effeminate men and "masculine women." The two main references to homosexual behavior are:
"We also sent Lut : He said to his people : "Do ye commit lewdness such as no people in creation (ever) committed before you? For ye practice your lusts on men in preference to women: ye are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds." Qur'an 7:80-81
"What! Of all creatures do ye come unto the males, and leave the wives your Lord created for you? Nay, but ye are forward folk." Qur'an 26:165
Both references relate to gay sexual activities; lesbian practices are not mentioned in the Qur'an.
Lut is referred to as "Lot" in the Hebrew Scriptures. This passage is an apparent reference to the activities at Sodom and Gamorah. It seems to imply that there was no homosexual behavior before it first appeared in Sodom. This is a uniquely Islamic concept; it does not appear in Jewish or Christian beliefs. The passage also links the sin of Sodom (the reason for its destruction) to homosexuality.That linkage is contradicted by other verses in the Hebrew Scriptures.
The Hadith and homosexuality: The Hadith are collections of sayings attributed to Muhammad. Many Hadiths (ahadith) discuss liwat (sexual intercourse between males). Two examples are:
"When a man mounts another man, the throne of God shakes."
"Kill the one that is doing it and also kill the one that it is being done to." (in reference to the active and passive partners in gay sexual intercourse)
There is at least one mention of lesbian behavior mentioned in the Hadith: "Sihaq (lesbian sexual activity) of women is zina (illegitimate sexual intercourse) among them."
Traditionalist orthodox Muslims generally claim that the Hadith literature contains the authentic sayings of Muhammad. Many liberal Muslims doubt their authenticity. The latter might point out that during the times of the first Caliphs, Muslims did not know what to do with individuals guilty of "liwat/lutiyya". No sahabi (companion) of Muhammad could quote a saying or decision of Muhammad relating to this question.
Treatment of homosexuals within Islam:
According to a pamphlet produced by Al-Fatiha, there is a consensus among Islamic scholars that all humans are naturally heterosexual. 5 Homosexuality is seen by scholars to be a sinful and perverted deviation from the norm. All Islamic schools of thought and jurisprudence consider gay acts to be unlawful. They differ in terms of penalty:
The Hanafite school (currently seen mainly in South and Eastern Asia) teaches that no physical punishment is warranted.
The Hanabalites, (widely followed in the Arab world) teach that severe punishment is warranted.
The Sha'fi school of thought (also seen in the Arab world) requires a minimum of 4 adult male witnesses before a person can be found guilty of a homosexual act. Al-Fatiha estimates that 4,000 homosexuals have been executed in Iran since their revolution in 1979. 10 public executions of homosexuals have been performed in Afghanistan by the Taliban army.

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The Islamic Society of North America:
Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi of the ISNA said: "Homosexuality is a moral disorder. It is a moral disease, a sin and corruption... No person is born homosexual, just like no one is born a thief, a liar or murderer. People acquire these evil habits due to a lack of proper guidance and education.""
"There are many reasons why it is forbidden in Islam. Homosexuality is dangerous for the health of the individuals and for the society. It is a main cause of one of the most harmful and fatal diseases. It is disgraceful for both men and women. It degrades a person. Islam teaches that men should be men and women should be women. Homosexuality deprives a man of his manhood and a woman of her womanhood. It is the most un-natural way of life. Homosexuality leads to the destruction of family life."
I don't know if many people know about this, but on the Internet, there are some pages about Muslims who are homosexuals. It is one issue to be Muslim and a homosexual, and another to try to justify this choice by Allah's (The Exalted) book, the Quran, and the word's of the Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace). InshaAllah, in this post I will be dealing with the later issue. The first point to make clear is that as Muslims, we accept Allah (The Exalted) and His Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) as the authority and final word on what is right and wrong. This is in important point to be grasped. Otherwise, there is little use in discussing the issue. This is exactly where the people who try to justify homosexuality, and other practices and beliefs, from the Quran go wrong. The point of this post is to make clear the position of Islam on homosexuality so that there will be no doubts about it.
Now concerning the evidence, we follow the methodology laid out by the Muslim scholars. In general, that is to see what the Quran says about an issue, then the Hadith, and then the consensus of the scholars, and the analogy can be made. The evidence concerning the unlawfulness of homosexuality is as follows:
SODOMY AND LESBIANISM
In more than one place in the Holy Koran, Allah recounts to us the story of Lot's people, and how He destroyed them for their wicked practice. There is consensus among both Muslims and the followers of all other religions that sodomy is an enormity. It is even viler and uglier than adultery.
Allah Most High says: "Do you approach the males of humanity, leaving the wives that Allah has created for you? But you are a people who transgress" Koran (26:165-66)
(1) The Prophet (saws) said: (1) "Kill the one who sodomizes and the one who lets if be done to him." (Tirmidhi, a sahih (authentic) hadith)
(2) "May Allah curse him who does that Lot's people did." (Ibn Hibban, sahih (authentic))
(3) "Lesbianism by women is adultery between them." (Tabarani, sahih)"
Taken from the Reliance of the Traveller, transltaed by Nuh Ha Mim Keller, p 664-665.
There are a lot more Hadiths on the issue, and the issue of what is to be done with one who commits sodomy or lesbianism. I will not deal with these now in this post. All I wanted to do was to show that the position of Islam on this issue is that it is an enormity (kaba'ir), and therefore, forbidden, (haram). May Allah (The Exalted) protect us.
What is forbidden in Islam- Homosexuality or practicing Homosexuality?
The common concept for Muslim homosexuals is to commit suicide since they can't be punished for being homosexuals in a non-Islamic state, but two wrongs don't make one right. While homosexuality is wrong, it doesn't justify suicide under any conditions or circumstances. Please know that if you ever commit suicide, you would have seriously misunderstood Islam and its spirit. If you were ever involved in sexual homosexual acts in the past, you should truly and sincerely repent to Allah, The Merciful, The Gracious, and pledge to Him never to get involved in any homosexual acts anymore. Please note that there is a difference to actually being involved in a homosexual act -which is a sin - from having sexual feelings that you try to control, that you don't express in public, which is not sinful if you try to control them. If medical or psychological counseling helps, then get it, but know that Allah is The Curer, and the Qur'an is your best companion. Give charity, pray, make dua', and Allah will not leave you alone. You have got to believe in the infinite amount of Mercy Allah provides to His servants, and you should also realize that He forgives, if He wishes, all types of sins, except the sin of disbelieving in Him.
What is sinful in homosexuality is the actual sexual act between the couple of a similar sex. if you transform your desires into a struggle and a challenge to overcome it and not physically commit it, then insha'Allah, you will get the reward for it.
Don't lose hope! Fear Allah (S.W.T), ask Him for help earnestly, never give up, and do something to get rid of even the idea of homosexuality. Try to avoid all of the circumstances that trigger your homosexual feelings: don't get alone with an attractive man, always be in the company of others, don't get involved in deep / personal discussions with any person that you may think will trigger your homosexual feeling. Stay away from any other people who have similar feelings. Don't even think in such an idea of this subject, keep yourself busy in different useful thing, and stay away of anything that remind you of homosexuality. Keep a POSITIVE thinking in your mind and keep saying to yourself that you can do something about it. Don't ever say I can't. Remember with every step you are taking toward getting rid of this habit you are getting help and reward from Allah (S.W.T) and you are annoying the shaytan.
Also for many Homosexual Muslims the concept of getting married is unappealing. Having this feeling should not prevent you from considering to get married in the future. You will discover that marriage is more than simply fulfilling your sexual needs... Your wife will insha'Allah bring you peace, tranquility, joy, security, and many other feelings that every human being needs, irrelevant of their "sexual partners". Also, while Muslims are not allowed to lie, you should keep this feeling to yourself and not share it with her or your parents for many reasons... Be patient and make it a lifelong struggle for yourself... You will see how rewarding it is at the end... Remember, there is in this world many compulsive gamblers, alcoholics, adulterers, thieves, but many of them control it and refrain from doing it... If they aren't Muslims and have the will to do it, you are a Muslim and you have Allah on your side when you seek His Help. There is no way you will fail insha'Allah...

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Homosexuality and Islam
Below are some verses in the Quran that speak against homosexuality. Those people who make a god (ilah) of there own lusts are clearly in the wrong. Prophet Lut spoke against this evil practice of his people. Their only reply was: "Bring us the Wrath of God if thou tellest the truth." They soon found out who was telling the truth when Allah destroyed them all. Let it be known right now that there is NO SUCH THING AS A GAY MUSLIM!!! A Muslim is one who submits himself to the will of Allah. Those who practice this evil have submitted themselves to their own desires and have turned their backs on the clear teachings of Islam. These people will use any kind of rationalization to justify their sinful practices. Be not deceived by the smooth tactics of Shaitan. He will try everything to guide us from the wrong way.
If you have these homosexual desires in you seek refuge in Allah and Allah will help you. Allah has revealed the truth. All praise is for Allah!!!
Verses From Qur'an:
026.165-166 "Of all the creatures in the world, will ye approach males, And leave those whom Allah has created for you to be your mates? Nay, ye are a people transgressing (all limits)!"
027.055 Would ye really approach men in your lusts rather than women? Nay, ye are a people (grossly) ignorant!
029.028-29 And (remember) Lut: behold, he said to his people: "Ye do commit lewdness, such as no people in Creation (ever) committed before you. Do ye indeed approach men, and cut off the highway?- and practise wickedness (even) in your councils?" But his people gave no answer but this: they said: "Bring us the Wrath of God if thou tellest the truth."
Hadeeth (saying of prophet Muhammad) regarding homosexuality:
Narrated AbuSa'id al-Khudri: The Prophet (saws) said: A man should not look at the private parts of another man, and a woman should not look at the private parts of another woman. A man should not lie with another man without wearing lower garment under one cover; and a woman should not be lie with another woman without wearing lower garment under one cover. (Abu Dawood)
Narrated AbuHurayrah: The Prophet (saws) said: A man should not lie with another man and a woman should not lie with another woman without covering their private parts except a child or a father. He also mentioned a third thing which I forgot. (Abu Dawood)
Discussion:
Allah condemns homosexuality explicitly in the Qur'an: "Do you approach the males of humanity, leaving the wives Allah has created for you? Nay, You are a people who transgress." (26:165-166) It is the sin of the people of Lut and its Arabic word is lutiyya. Liwat is the word for sodomy, under which heading the topic of homosexuality is found in the books of fiqh. Under shari`a both the (same-sex) sodomizer and sodomized are passible of death. The laws of other religions were similar until not so long ago. The Companions considered it so abhorrent that they subjected the culprits to burning, an extreme punishment not meted out for any other offense. As for lesbianism, the Prophet, blessings and Peace upon him said that it consisted in zina (adultery) and so it is subject to the same ruling as zina, which is death for the married, and lashes for the unmarried. Our relaxed attitude in this day and age is purely a product of the times in which we live, where morals have been completely liquefied so that we no longer know the difference between black and white so to speak. If someone was covered with dirt from head to toes and insists that it is his way of life, we would not keep company with them for one second. What about someone who insists on his transgression when even the shari`a of Jews and Christians explicitly condemn it?

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Article - Homosexuality and Islam - An Islamic Perspective
There has been a lot of discussion lately on the issue of Homosexuality. There is a tendency, ever so slight, among some of us to make this behavior acceptable in the name of fairness and tolerance. On the other hand there are those who would suggest summary execution of those engaging in homosexual behavior. This confusing message can be a danger in that it can erode and dilute some of our basic values. Let me preface my suggestions to develop an effective way to address this very sensitive and critical issue, with some background information.
Homosexuality is, of course, not a new behavior. It has existed in practically all cultures and among all people, but usually in fewer numbers and in secrecy, not with an "in your face" attitude as it does in the west now. Unfortunately this is the reality of the times we live in, especially in the western societies, and we need to deal with it. The Homosexual, or the gay as they call themselves, in an attempt to polish their image, constitute a very active and powerful lobby group. They have strong political and social ties and access to the elites of the society, especially in the US, up to and including President Clinton. Even though majority of the people in the US believe that homosexual behavior is wrong, it is intriguing, but never the less remarkable, that the homosexuals have gained public acceptance for their behavior in a very short period of time. This acceptance by the US public is a reflection of people who are committed to their cause and give due thought, time, money and effort to achieve their purpose, though a wrong one. The homosexual's agenda is a very simple one to make their behavior acceptable as NORMAL, and in the process recruit more to their ranks. They have a sophisticated and multifaceted campaign to achieve their goals. These include active participation in social and political issues other than their immediate ones, like feeding the hungry and dealing with human right issues. They promote their agenda through legislation, presenting themselves as victims of prejudice and discrimination, helping to enact the gender discrimination act, legalizing and securing full benefits for same gender marriage, funding research similar to the hypothalamus issue (which shows a genetic propensity to homosexuality), teaching at even kindergarten level that the two-male or the two female can make a family unit which is an acceptable alternative that is even comparable to the traditional MOM and POP family, religious and moral blurring on the stand by establishing gay churches and synagogues, etc. etc. The most effective milestone in the homosexual movement, was probably when in 1976 the American Psychiatric Association (APA) declared that homosexuality was no longer to be considered an illness but was to be regarded merely as an orientation or a sexual variant. The rest, as they say, is history. This made a lot of people very suspicious of the scientific community, who went against known scientific data that the homosexual behavior can be changed. Even though the APA has taken an official stand, this debate continues and many prominent members of APA oppose this stand. Again this has happened and continues to happen even in religious circles, amongst Muslims and others, where experts or priests make pronouncements in favor of those from whom they stand to gain favors at the expense of the masses and against clear moral and/or scientific stands supporting the contrary or opposite views.
The strength of the movement was demonstrated by the outbreak of AIDS. Up to that point in history, there was a standard to deal with ALL communicable diseases. The scientifically developed and tested system that is in place to contain communicable diseases was bypassed with political muscle. As a result, the disease spread very rapidly and affected many innocent lives through blood supply and other preventable methods whose implementation was suppressed politically. AIDS, a communicable disease up to that point that mainly affected the homosexuals, was forced to become a political issue and became the exception to the rule. The innocent were put at risk and their lives made a living hell, some were even lost just for a political gain. The lie that is being promoted is that AIDS is equally rampant amongst the heterosexuals as it is amongst the homosexuals. Statistics contradicts this statement.
The homosexual movement has a strong network of support groups who encourage each other to "come out of the closet", thus advancing and actively promoting this behavior. They thrive on conflict amongst the family and/or community members. They have been known to provide moral, psychological, social, and financial support to any one of their own who is making the transition into their lifestyle or who is "coming out of the closet", so to speak.
They use proven methodologies in changing social acceptability and behavior towards themselves. Like the shows on television, they will introduce the radical issue which will provoke a hue and cry from all quarters the first time out, the second time there is less and in subsequent times the opposition will die out. They then discuss, or frame the issue as it is known, to convince us of their legitimacy and how wrong, narrow minded and bigots all these moralists are. The trick is to say it enough times, and what was once a taboo to even talk about is becoming normal, acceptable, and even desirable to more and more people.
They now have an annually "Gay Pride Parade" in many US cities with full fledged TV coverage. A "Gay Pride Month" has been established in some school districts to remove bigotry and prejudice. Additionally, colleges and universities have a profound impact on the intellectual development of our young people. It is the time in their lives where new and independent thoughts are introduced, incubate, and develop. However, most of these institution are a bedrock of secular extremism and promote all other values except the divine ones. In these circles, it is politically and socially acceptable to talk about, promote and experiment with all behaviors, homosexuality included, but to discuss and further divine values is considered being close minded and narrow. The argument from some of the elites of these institutions is that we need to adhere to the separation of church and state, which has historical merit. In fact, it is obvious to most observers that what is meant is to take God out of the equation and confine Him to the walls of homes, mosques, churches, and synagogues only. We, the yuths and the parents, all need to be aware of these trends so as to enable us to develop an effective way to deal with these issues and inoculate ourselves against harmful behaviors. This is a summary of our study of the homosexual movement that we undertook to try and understand various movements, religious and those based on other various causes, that have succeeded to transform themselves from being the abhorred or persecuted groups to becoming key players in the American society. Homosexual movement is one of them, the others are the Irish Catholics, the Quakers, etc. The reason for providing the background information here is to first to come to grips with the sophisticated nature of the problem, and know who we and our youths are dealing with. The second is to enable us to formulate an effective response to it.
discussion here of homosexuality is a reflection of the success of their movement to force us to address this as an issue, even though we would rather not. We do not know how many can claim, with any degree of certainty, the pervasiveness of this behavior amongst our community members. We are for sure affected by the society in which we live, however I think on this score, we as a community, have not yet been too adversely affected. In our studies of the youths of Toronto, which was subsequently published in a book entitled "Muslim Youths at the Crossroads, Advancing into the 21st Century", we did not see this as a major problem. This does not mean that it has not developed into a problem now, or that we do not need to address this as an issue now. I believe that any discussion needs to take into consideration the following:
We as Muslims need to state unequivocally and unambiguously that homosexuality is a deviant behavior and that there is not even an iota of doubt that Islam condemns the behavior.
* The most important thing for us as Muslims is that Islam is not our ethnicity, it is our religion which regulates our lives and from which we derive our values.
* Even though our religion allows us latitude, more than most, to ponder and reconsider some issues, homosexuality is clearly and explicitly condemned by the Quran (7:80-83, 11:77-79), the Prophet, and his progeny.
* When we have a conflict with the Quran, which is the word of God verbatim, we do not ask where the Quran went wrong but rather why are we, limited beings, in conflict with the wisdom of the absolute, God Almighty.
* As Muslims we do not make up our religion, but we receive it and we obey it.
* Thus stated, we need to clarify, that it does not mean that we hate the homosexual person but rather that we find the behavior abhorable. We want to help with sensitivity and care whoever has these tendencies, or practices such behavior. We can further point out the following:
God has created everything in pairs each endowed with physical and psychological characteristics to complement and complete one another. The Quran (4:1) indicates that human beings have been created from one living entity (nafs), which represents the origin of both the male and the female. The human species though has included male and female since its existence. The "mating" or "spousing" of male and female sexes is original in human nature and out of this instinctive relationship the human race develops, continues and spreads.
Between the two sexes a gravitating combination of love, tenderness, and care is engendered, so that each finds in the other completeness, tranquility, and support (Quran 30:21). Having children and loving them represents another fulfillment of the human nature (Quran 42:49-50). It is through this spousal complementation and completion, according to the Quran (7:189), that each spouse achieves comfort, and enjoys peace of mind, satisfaction, and fulfillment. These relationships extend beyond the physical sexual contact and to psychological, spiritual relations.
The blessings of this completeness are not ended by their accomplishment, but they continue and develop through bringing forth children, raising them, and providing the whole family with material, emotional, and moral needs.
The pleasures of completion and procreation may well be extended and multiplied, when one is granted grand children, who not only represent genealogical continuation, but are also a dynamic revitalization of the human race.
Such physical-psychological-spiritual development through spousing and mating, followed by procreation, that may continue for more than one generation, ought to lead every sensible human being to be grateful to God for His successive and multiplying favors with his own family throughout his lifetime. Such persons and their happy veritable families would be models for the whole society (Quran 25:72).
* One of the criteria or litmus test of a behavior that is beneficial to humanity at large is, "what if the action that you are promoting is exercised by a majority of the people of the world? Will it advance humanity or will it retard it?" In this case human beings will cease to exist.
* If there is any truth to the claim that the male homosexual behavior could be genetic, how about the bisexuals and the lesbians. They for sure are making a choice and by our standards a wrong one too.
* The debate and the argument advanced by the homosexuals is "Be what you are," and "do not be ashamed of it". Many unsuspecting youths then start to experiment, to "discover" what they really are. They are in fact being unwittingly, and in their most suggestible period of growth, led astray with the power of suggestion and a convoluted logic. Whoever we are, whatever one might be, it is ennobling to always try to do what is right.
* Even if there is a genetic propensity towards homosexuality, it is the nobility of the human spirit that can overcome it. There are suggestions that alcoholics are genetically pre-disposed to their behavior. Furthermore, some people are inherently prone to take risks, which is an essential element for human progress and development. This pre-disposition to risk taking behavior can easily lead to the destructive behavior of gambling. We do not encourage the people with a propensity to alcoholism or gambling to keep on indulging in these vices, but rather encourage them to resist and overcome them We should do the same with homosexual feelings and tendencies. Whether one has the orientation or harbors "homosexual genes," one's feelings and desires cannot dictate behavior. One may have a strong urge to have a homosexual contact, a heterosexual contact with one other than one's own spouse, or to steal or kill. The nobility of the human spirit is to resist, and this is what elevates the human being to the status above that of the angels.
* There is a period during our growth process where we are most comfortable with and try to bond with persons of the same gender. Some carry this behavior to an extreme and experiment with homosexuality. Some Psychiatrists still believe that those who continue with the homosexual behavior are really arrested in their development process. They avoid or are afraid to continue with the normal psychological growth. This condition is treatable by psychotherapy.
The reality of the society requires that we argue our positions, and deal with issues, as they prevail using some of the existing societal rationale. Though the thinking may fall short of our ideal, it can be an effective start in changing and moving the debate closer to our view point and values. The following two points are made with this thought in mind.
* As Muslims, we identify and instinctly come to the defense of any individuals or groups who are discriminated against. This reaction is due to our foundational value and commitment to justice, and also from our own contemporary experiences, as individuals and as members of a group, who have suffered from discrimination and vilification.
While we abhor acts of discrimination against individuals or groups, we also place a high value on discretion. The individual's right of choice is a fundamental value and necessary condition for each individual to be accountable to God for his/her own actions. God's guidance secures the balance between the individual's and societal rights. No one has a right to spy into the private lives and affairs of individuals. Even when these private affairs should incidentally be known, the admonition is to keep them private and protect those involved.
However, when one openly declares one's sexual orientation, a private matter, and then demands special consideration because of it, we find this an affront to the society's well being. There are already safeguards and protections under the law against discrimination that includes heterosexuals and homosexuals. To demand further special rights and consideration based on how or who we have sex with, and claim it to be a civil rights issue, is ludicrous. To compare with and demand special protection as those who have been persecuted for their national origin, race, color, or creed and religious beliefs is baseless and has no historical or social justification or parallels. We will then have to accede similar special demands for protection and single out groups varying from those who want to have heterosexual relations to those who are left handed, when they are all currently protected under existing laws. We are committed to uphold the family unit and its values, and protection of it as a durable, proven, most important and socially viable nucleus of any society. There is a continual struggle and effort to maintain the balance between an individual's right and society's well being. We place a higher value on the society's well being than an individual's right to actively promote counter values that will ultimately damage the society at large. We therefore have a right to resist and ensure the protection of our values against such an onslaught. This resistance should never be an aggression against any individual or groups, but a firm and principled stand against the counter values being promoted, while promoting our values in a kinder and gentler fashion with conviction. We have, indeed, a duty to promote divine wisdom and values that will advance humanity and that have withstood the test of time.
* Homosexuality is an issue that concerns most main stream Christians and Jews and we all share a common value. It can provide an opportunity to work together for the common good of the society at large.
We, as Muslims, have benefit and blessings of divine guidance and wisdom. The Quran reminds us that Allah (SWT) will change the condition of the people only if they themselves put forth the effort (13:11). If the homosexuals can promote their wrong values with vigor and succeed, we have a duty and a responsibility to not only make an effort to arrest this trend, but also to invest our time, energy, and resources to promote the divine values with as much zeal.
Our challenge is to explore and find ways to resist and counter this movement amongst our own families, immediate community, the Muslim Ummah, and the whole of humanity. This is our destiny and the challenge of the times we live in. Action more than rhetoric will make us worthy of Allah's (SWT) help and mercy and will endear us to Him. The question is what are you, and in turn all of us collectively, going to do to promote our values, and counter this threat?

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What is Islam's view of homosexuality?
There is no doubt that in Islam homosexuality is considered 'sinful'. Homosexuality as far as Islam is concerned is a profound mistake ( as are all sins if they are not intending to do wrong). Humans are not homosexuals by nature. People become homosexuals because of their environments. Particularly critical is the environment during puberty. Suggestions, ideas & strange dreams are symptoms of confused attempts to understand new and blunt sexual desires and are rashly interpreted as defining someone as being one sexuality or another. If these conclusions are accompanied by actual homosexual acts they are even more strongly reinforced.
Human instincts can be subjected to acts of will. Sexuality is a choice of identity which follows choices of action which follow from choices of what to have sexual fantasies about. Human beings are especially able to control their thoughts, entertaining some and dismissing others.
However, if this free will is not recognised it is easy to get into a cycle of thinking which starts from accepting a hypothesis about yourself as true rather than as a possible choice (even if the options are sometimes difficult).For example: "I am lazy " could be supposed true by someone. When the person who thinks this lies around in bed in the morning he observes this inaction as evidence of the statement "I am lazy." As he repeatedly chooses to do so the evidence mounts and the idea becomes fixed in his identity. It may even have physical manifestations and change his physiology and psychology. This process can easily occur for any idea good or bad about the self which is based largely on evidence resulting from ones own action. The idea may be "I am 'gay'" or "I am content" or "I love eating lots of food". The truth is - you are what you choose to be ; you do what you choose to do ; you think what you choose to think. There may be long time delays between the causing choices and the effects but anyone can change themselves. There are reformed ex-drug addicts, reformed ex-compulsive gamblers and ex-homosexuals. In all these sins prevention is 1000 times better than cure and much easier.
It has been suggested that homosexuality is genetically inherited and that those who have this 'predisposition' are victims of it not sinners of any sort. However, there are other things which are probably genetically influenced to give predispositions to for example gambling or alcoholism .It could also be argued (and has been) that it is programmed into men's genetics for them to be unfaithful to their partner. All these things don't make it the right thing to do, nor does it prevent these things from being regarded as sinful. Drinking alcohol will still be regarded as sinful in Islam even if you have a predisposition to be an alcoholic. The trick as every post alcoholic will tell you is never touch another drop after you quit - it is a long slippery slope - your life is better without it. Once a certain desire is connected to your identity strongly and you get in some way hooked on it, it will always be easy to return to it - you are unable to forget the satisfaction. The difficult task is remembering the bad side of the desire, such as hangovers, lost money, self loathing or a simply sense of loss because of what you missed out on. But if you are to change for the better, you must remember this and the past desires you bound up with your identity can become disconnected from what you choose to become.
What does Islam say about homosexuality?
Taken from the book titled 'Common Questions People Ask About Islam' by Shabir Ally.
Islam teaches that homosexual acts are sinful and punishable by God. This teaching comes not from human beings, but from the Creator of all humans. God tells us in His own words how He punished the people of Lot for their homosexual behaviour.
The story of prophet Lot, on whom be peace, finds mention in several Qur'anic passages, especially Chapter 26:160-175 which reads: "The people of Lut rejected the apostles. Behold, their brother Lut said to them: "Will ye not fear (God)? "I am to you an apostle worthy of all trust. "So fear God and obey me. "No reward do I ask of you for it: my reward is only from the lord of the Worlds. "Of all the creatures in the world, will ye approach males, "And leave those whom God has created for you to be your mates? Nay, ye are a people transgressing (all limits)!" They said: "If thou desist not, O Lut! thou wilt assuredly be cast out!" He said: "I do detest your doings." "O my Lord! deliver me and my family from such things as they do!" So We delivered him and his family,- all Except an old woman who lingered behind. But the rest We destroyed utterly. We rained down on them a shower (of brimstone): and evil was the shower on those who were admonished (but heeded not)! Verily in this is a Sign: but most of them do not believe. And verily thy Lord is He, the Exalted in Might Most Merciful."
From these passages we learn that God saved Lot and the righteous ones of his family, and rained on the rest a shower of brimstone, so they were utterly destroyed. This is mentioned in the Qur'an not only for the sake of information, but mainly to serve as a warning to anyone who dares to repeat such acts.

Obsessive–Compulsive Disorder

Obsessive–Compulsive Disorder

It has been noted by some of the counselors from our Cyber Counselor service that there seems to be a growing number of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) cases surfacing amongst the Muslim communities around the world. This article is intended to provide some information about OCD to those who are suffering from this disorder. As such, the symptoms of this disorder, some contributing factors, and some treatment alternatives will be discussed. Both the Western and Islamic perspectives will be presented.

Definition and Description

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is characterized by unabated recurrent thoughts and images that are invariably distressing because they are violent, loathsome, threatening, or obscene in nature. They are recognized as the individual's own thoughts, even though they are involuntary and often repugnant. They are largely out of the person's control and often, the more the person tries to resist them, the worse they become. These unwanted thoughts generally produce a very high amount of anxiety. This is the obsessive component of the disorder.These thoughts lead a person to engage in behaviors that will relieve the anxiety or threat. Since the thoughts are recurrent, the resultant defensive behavior is also repetitive. For example, if the obsessions are about catching germs or becoming unclean, the person frequently washes himself/herself. If the obsessions are about personal safety and security, the person engages in repeatedly checking the doors and locks his/her house. These repetitive behaviors take up so much time from their daily life that they become unable to live normally. Paradoxically, the more they engage in these defensive behaviors, the more they are attacked by these obsessions. Thus, the obsession, followed by the compulsion, becomes such a vicious cycle that one cannot easily break out of it.Here is a case example that illustrates the nature of this disorder and how it renders a person totally helpless and dysfunctional. The person states:

I always feel that there is urine on my clothes so I feel unclean (napak) and keep checking my clothes to see if they are wet. I keep changing my clothes. I always feel that if I step on something wet and my feet get wet, then it is urine. If I burp, cough, then throw up, I think that my clothes are now dirty and I feel unclean; so I change my clothes and keep washing my mouth. When I make wudu’ (ablutions), I keep thinking it is not done right. When I do salah (ritual Prayer), I keep thinking that my hands are dirty because my mind keeps telling me that I have touched my private parts and so I am unclean; so I keep washing my hands. The same thing happens when I recite Qur’an. When I drive, I keep wiping my hands with damp tissues because I feel my hands are dirty. When I cook, I keep washing my hands because, again, I keep thinking that I have touched my private parts and have become unclean. I always carry tissues in my hands so I know I did not touch my private parts. I put safety pins on my dress to hold my dress down to ensure that I don't touch my private parts. Because of the fear of throwing up, I have started putting tissues in my mouth, so I don’t throw up. I know all of these things are weird, but if I don’t do it, I feel scared and unclean and very anxious. I feel that I am crazy, my husband and kids think so too. I try to stop thinking about these feelings, but they keep getting stronger, so I give in to the washing so the feelings will go away, but they keep coming back.

From an Islamic perspective, these unwanted thoughts are called wasawis (plural of waswasah), which are whispered into the minds and hearts of people by Ash-Shaytan (Satan). We find evidence of this in the holy Qur’an and hadith. Allah says,

[Then Shaytan whispered suggestions to them both, in order to uncover that which was hidden from them of their private parts"] (Al-A`raf 7:20).

[Then Shaytan whispered to him saying, 'O Adam! Shall I lead you to the tree of eternity and to a kingdom that will never waste away?] (Ta-Ha 20:120).

[Say: 'I seek refuge with Allah, the Lord of mankind, the King of mankind the God of mankind, from the evil of the whispers of the Devil, who whispers in the hearts of men] (An-Nas 114:1-4).

And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said,Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that Allah's Apostle said, “Shaytan comes to one of you and says, ‘Who created so-and-so and so-and-so?’ till he says, ‘Who has created your Lord?’ So, when he inspires such a question, one should seek refuge with Allah and give up such thoughts” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim).These waswawis play a significant role in many mental disorders that involve anxiety and cognitive distortions.

To a lesser degree, these obsessions and compulsions result in what is known as Obsessive Personality Disorder. A person suffering from this disorder shows peculiar idiosyncrasies. For example, he/she might be quite particular about a specific way of maintaining cleanliness, or washing dishes, or wearing clothes, or making their beds, or doing their work. If things are not done exactly in that way, they become quite annoyed and frustrated. Some end up being perfectionists; they are hard to satisfy. They have very high expectations of themselves and others, and become very disappointed, frustrated, and annoyed if those high expectations are not met.

Causes and Contributing Factors

Recurring thoughts about catching germs, being unclean, and questioning one's faith appear to be the most common forms amongst Muslim men and women. The fear of catching germs and being unclean are most often found among women. Although globally the incidence of OCD appears to be about equal between men and women, in my practice with Muslim clients, I see more women seeking help than men; or it could be that Muslim women suffer from OCD more than men.The definite causes of OCD remain elusive. Genetics, some physical disorders, and environmental factors have been presumed to contribute to this disorder. Although there is no clear genetic evidence, OCD tends to run in families. A person with OCD has a 25 percent chance of having a blood relative who has it. In my practice, I have found that a person's sexual and interpersonal history may also be contributing factors.Often, people suffering from OCD also end up suffering from depression, a lack of self-esteem and self confidence, very weak willpower, relationship problems, and social withdrawal.Before a treatment plan can be devised, a thorough clinical assessment is required to determine the nature and severity of the symptoms and the possible causes and contributing factors.Let's look at a case example that exemplifies the influence of environmental factors in OCD.

I remember that after my son died, I decided that I will be a better Muslim. I looked at the most religious person that I knew. It was my mother-in-law. This person is on the prayer mat all the time—always praying, always fasting. So, I thought that she was a good example. I started thinking about the ways in which she does things and that's because she was so religious, so I thought she must be right. I started to see the behavior that she had towards things. She would not let anyone touch her things, which made me think we were not clean enough. If I washed something like a spoon or pots, then she would wash that item again three times. So I started thinking that everything had to be washed three times to be clean. So I started doing the same thing. Even before my son had died, I was “normal.” My mother-in-law does not put her clothes in the washing machine with ours, hers had to be washed separately. My husband even got her a separate basket for her clothes. Looking at her behavior, I thought that I was not clean enough. So, I began to be like her so that I would go to Jannah and see my son again.

From an Islamic perspective, these wasawis are meant to weaken the will and beliefs of a person. Let us look at some of the verses from the holy Qur’an in this respect.

[O Adam! Dwell you and your wife in Paradise and eat thereof as you both wish, but approach not this tree, otherwise you both would be of the transgressors. Then Shaytan whispered suggestions to them both in order to uncover that which was hidden from them of their private parts before. He said, 'Your Lord did not forbid you this tree save you should become angels or become of the immortals.’ And he swore by Allah to them both saying, 'Verily, I am one of the sincere well-wishers for you both] (Al-A`raf 7:19-21).

Let us also look at a couple of hadith.`Uthman ibn Abu Al-`Aas reported that he went to Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) and said, “Allah's Messenger, A shaytan intervenes between me and my prayer and my reciting of the Qur’an and he confounds me.” Thereof, Allah's Messenger said, “That is (the doing of shaytan) who is known as Khinzab, and when you perceive its effect, seek refuge with Allah from it ands pit three times to your left.” “I did that, and Allah dispelled him from me." (Muslim).`Urwah ibn Zubair narrated from `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) that one night the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) left her during the night and went out. `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) said that she felt envious. When he returned, he found her in deep thought. He asked, "What happened to you O `A’ishah? Did your shaytan overpower you?” `A’ishah said, “O Prophet of Allah! Why would a woman like me be envious over a man like you? Is there a shaytan with me, O Prophet of Allah?” He responded, “Yes.” She asked, “Is there a shaytan with everyone?” He replied, “Yes.” She said, “Even with you, O Prophet of Allah?” He responded, “Yes, with me also, but Allah has made him obedient to me” (Muslim).

All human beings suffer from the wasawis, regardless of age, sex, faith, or creed. However, the nature, content, severity, and influence of these wasawis varies from one person to the other. For some, they only cause mild anxiety and worry, while others are more severely affected to the point of becoming spiritually, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and socially paralyzed. In my experience, age, faith, family, sexual and religious history all play a significant role in determining the nature and content of these wasawis; while the severity and impact are determined by the pre-morbid spiritual, emotional, and psychological maturity of a person.

Treatment

Obsessive Compulsive Disorders are treatable. Several treatment modalities have been traditionally used in the treatment of OCD, including drug therapy, cognitive behavior therapy, and relaxation exercises in various combinations, depending upon the nature, the severity, and the history.Most of the drugs used to treat OCD are antidepressants. These drugs have variable effectiveness in the control of the symptoms of OCD and depression. Apparently, these drugs do not completely stop the obsessive thoughts or the compulsive behavior, but reduce the related anxiety and depression, so reducing the felt severity of the disorder. So, they manage the severity of the symptoms, but do not seem to get rid of them. This is why drug treatment is generally used in conjunction with psychological therapies.Psychological therapies, on the other hand, attempt to help the client understand the root, the dynamics, and the possible contributing factors. The stress and anxiety are treated with relaxation exercises. Faulty beliefs arising out of the obsessions and leading to compulsions are examined. Here is a case example.

In the Qur’an, there is a verse that says, “And Allah loves those who purify themselves.” Also, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Purity is half the iman.” So I keep thinking that I must keep myself clean or I am not good enough.

With relaxation, education, and cognitive behavior therapy, the person is gradually guided in correcting the faulty beliefs. Past traumas (like sexual/physical abuse) and unsavory conduct and lifestyles of the past that may be responsible for severe guilt leading to OCD, are dealt with. Appropriate home assignments are given to promote new and healthy thought process and beliefs. And, over a period of time, the obsessive thoughts and the compulsive behaviors begin to decrease.In cases where the symptoms of OCD are so severe that they render the person completely dysfunctional and lacking control over the thought processes, psychological therapies by themselves are not often very effective. In such cases, drug therapy is combined with psychological therapies to initially reduce the anxiety and depression and then followed by counseling and therapy.

From an Islamic perspective, where Allah Most High has given Ash-Shaytan the power to inject his poisonous whispers into the minds and hearts of the people, He has also guided mankind to defend themselves from these whispers. We find in the holy Qur’an

[So when you intend to recite the Qur’an, seek refuge with Allah from Shaytan, the outcast. Verily! He has no power over those who believe and put their trust only in their Lord (Allah). His power is over those who obey and follow him (Shaytan) and those who join partners with Allah] (An-Nahl 16:99-100).

[And deceive among them those whom you can with your voice. Verily! On my true servants, you would have no authority. Sufficient is your Lord as a guardian] (An-Nahl 17:64–65).

[And whosoever turns away (blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allah), We appoint for him Shaytan to be his intimate companion] (Az-Zukhruf 43:36).

And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said

“Allah Most High has forgiven the wasawis that arises in the hearts of the people of my nation until one acts upon them or talks about them" (Al-Bukhari, Muslim).

In summary then, if one lives by his faith according to the guidance provided by the Creator, seeks Allah's protection from devils, does not keep talking about or give into these obsessions, and protects one’s mind and heart from the evil effects of these offensive, threatening, or obsessive thoughts, one will gain the strength to keep them under control.

While treating a believing client, combining these teachings of Islam with modern treatments of OCD has been found to be extremely valuable, effective, and efficient. However, it loses its effect if the therapist and/or the client does not believe in these teachings or is unwilling to live by his faith.

Allah Knows Best.

ADDICTION, IS THERE HOPE?

ADDICTION, IS THERE HOPE?

 

In The Name Of Allah,

 The Entirely Merciful, The Especially Merciful

 

PREFACE

The aim of this book is to help Muslims who have an addict in their family through better understanding of addiction and the role the family plays in recovery, not only for the addict but for themselves as well.

Sadly today the Muslim community has its share of drug and alcohol problems.  Some have succumbed to the lure of taking the easy way out in life, following their desires, given in to materialism and forgetting sincere worship, obedience and gratitude to Allah (swt) [subhanallahu wa ta`ala - Glory to Allah Most High].  Some of our youth have especially been the victims of this.  Their Islamic upbringing has been neglected.  They have fallen prey to peer pressures and evil, which they are constantly bombarded with and are caught up in the awful grip of drug and or alcohol addiction and associated crime.  Without the tools of Islamic knowledge and faith to guide, help and comfort them through the minefield of evil in this society, they are left without protection. They are lost unless they are given and accept the truth.  The truth that only Islam has to offer.

It is our responsibility to face up to the problem, not covering it up, pretending it doesn’t exist.  We must accept the fact that our youth are suffering and are in desperate need of our help.  It is up to every able Muslim to work towards solving this problem.  This doesn’t necessarily mean every Muslim has to be a trained social worker, working in this field: but every Muslim has the responsibility to at least educate themselves and their families, firstly about their deen (Islamic way of life) and about drug addiction, it’s causes, effects and solutions.

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AKNOWLEDGEMENTS

The medical facts in this booklet as well as advice and assistance in editing were provided by Dr. Tamer El-Kahil, MB. BS. Aleppo University, Syria. AMC. FRACS I, Australia.  May Allah (swt) reward him for his help, support and encouragement in producing this booklet and for his dedication and hard work in the care of people who suffer from drug addiction.

The Arabic translation is by Br. Mohammad Bawazeer and formatting of the Arabic text by Br. Bashir Sawalha, manager of Artline Design and Print, Lakemba NSW.

Many thanks also to the other brothers and sisters who assisted with advice, information and generous funding to publish and print this book. 

May Allah reward them all in this life and the next.

SUPPORT NETWORK

Your comments, suggestions and advice regarding this book and related matters are welcome.  If you would like to contact other Muslims to establish a support network please write to:

Umm ‘Umar

c/o SADAQAH,

P.O. Box 6191,

Lakemba Business Centre,

NSW 2195.Australia.

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INTRODUCTION

The life of the family of a person with drug addiction can become an existence of misery, anxiety, frustration, confusion, and desperation.  Normal life is devastated.  But there is a way to regain sanity and normality back into life.  The keys to finding the answers are 1) turning to ALLAH (swt) for guidance and help, and 2) knowledge about drugs, addiction, and the role the family plays in recovery.

Alhamdulillah, (Praise Allah) Muslims should always have hope that Allah (swt) will help us out of our difficulties and not despair.

Qur’an Surah (Chapter) al-Talaq 65: 2+3

“…and whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out”

“…and whoever relies upon Allah, then indeed He is sufficient for him”

Allah (swt) often mentions the importance of seeking knowledge, for example:

 Qur’an Surah az-Zumar 39: 9

“… Say, are those who know equal to those who do not know?”

The following chapters will, insha Allah (if Allah wills), provide some information that will give a clearer understanding about drugs, addiction and related issues which will help the family to cope with the addict in their life and improve their situation.

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What Does Islam Say About Intoxicants?

The warning against using intoxicants was revealed by Allah (swt) gradually to get the people familiar with the idea, until the total prohibition was declared.

Allah (swt) says:-

Qur’an Surah al-Baqarah 2: 219

“They ask you (O Muhammad) about wine* and gambling.  Say ‘in them is great sin and (yet, some) benefit for people.  But their sin is greater than their benefit’…Thus Allah makes clear to you the verses (of revelation) that you might give thought”

*“wine” – in Arabic “khamr”:- includes all intoxicants.

Qur’an Surah an-Nisa 4: 43

“O you who have believed, do not approach prayer while you are intoxicated until you know what you are saying”

This verse was revealed before the total prohibition of intoxicants.

Qur’an Surah al-Ma’idah 5: 90

“O you who have believed, indeed, intoxicants, gambling (sacrificing on) stone alters (to other than Allah), and divining arrows are but defilement from the work of satan, so avoid* it that you may be successful.  Satan wants only to excite enmity and hatred between you with intoxicants and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allah and from prayer.  So will you not then abstain?”

* - the prohibition understood from the word ‘avoid’ is stronger than if Allah (swt) had merely said ‘abstain’.  The former requires distancing oneself from anything remotely related to these practices.

The use of medications prescribed by doctors or available over the counter, must not be abused and used with intention of becoming intoxicated.

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What Are Drugs?

Drugs can be divided into three categories:

1. Prescribed Drugs (Medications)

2. Alcohol

3. Marijuana, Heroin, Cocaine, Ecstasy etc.

Generally speaking drugs and alcohol are used to satisfy the need to feel relief.

Addictive drugs cause either a reduction of pain or a heightening of mood, altering the mind’s perception of reality.  A person who has been abusing drugs for a long period of time may become emotionally desensitized and appear unfeeling.

Drugs have different forms, so depending on the drug, the amount taken and frequency used, the human body is affected in different ways.  They have different short and long term effects.  Addicts develop tolerance to and dependency on drugs and suffer different effects of withdrawal according to the type of drug/s they use.

Drug addiction reduces a person’s ability to live a normal life.  Dependence can lead to a variety of health, financial, legal, employment and relationship problems.

*What Is Addiction?

The brain and other systems in the body have functions and tasks to perform. Specific substances control these functions.  These substances either activate or block these functions.  The substances that activate the functions are called activators or stimulants while the substances that block these functions are called blockers or depressants.  Each function in the body has an ON switch and an OFF switch, these switches are called receptors.  So, for a drug to have an effect on the body, it must work on these switches (receptors) throughout the body including the central nervous system by binding to them.

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The drugs replace important natural substances (activators or blockers) produced in the body and brain for its natural function.  When the drug supply to the body continues, the body reduces the production of its own natural substances to provide a healthy balance for functions required, this is the point when physical addiction starts.*

Tolerance, Dependence and Withdrawal

The person becomes psychologically (habitually) and physically addicted to the drugs or alcohol because they develop a tolerance to and dependence on them.

*Tolerance means that a person builds up the ability to tolerate more and more of the drug.  They take higher amounts of the drug to achieve the same effects they used to have with lower amounts.*

Dependence on a drug means that it takes up a lot of the person’s thoughts, emotions, and activities.  The person constantly seeks the relief that drugs give him/her and also seeks to avoid the mental and physical horrors of withdrawal.

Addiction takes hold of the person’s life.  Daily life for the addict is obsession with the getting and using of drugs.  The initial problem he/she was trying to avoid has perhaps now faded from memory.  The more they use drugs the guiltier they feel and the more depressed they become.  An addict will sacrifice his/her personal integrity, relationships with family and friends, studies, employment, savings, anything, to get more drugs.

* Medical facts by Dr. Tamer El-Kahil *

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The Cycle Of Quitting, Withdrawal, Craving And Relapse

*The addicts body becomes unable to make its own natural substances (activators and blockers) so when an addict tries to quit taking drugs, the brain sends demands for more to maintain normal functions.*  The person then suffers withdrawal and cravings that are so powerful he/she will find any excuse to use drugs again, which causes relapse.

Addiction is often called an “illness” or a “disease”.   The Islamic view of these terms does not mean that the addict is not responsible and accountable for his/her own choices and actions.  The addict has choices; get help to recover, or continue his/her miserable existence.

*Dangers Involved With Drug Abuse

Major dangers include:

1) Toxic reaction or overdose with potentially lethal consequence.  This occurs because the drug (heroin for example) is often mixed to different degrees with other substances (lactose, powdered milk, etc).  A person may use the same quantity but because of higher purity (ie; stronger) unintentional overdose may result.

2) The use of dirty needles by intravenous users causes increased risks of infection of hepatitis B and C, infection of the heart lining (bacterial endocarditis), and infection with the AIDS virus (human immunodeficiency virus or HIV), and are causes of death in intravenous drug users and their sexual partners.*

* Medical facts by Dr. Tamer El-Kahil *

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Why Does A Person Become An Addict?

People do not intend to become addicts.  Drug and alcohol use can start because of a variety of reasons such as socializing, peer group pressure, curiosity, medical or other reasons.

Everyone experiences problems in their lives.  People without true iman (faith with submission) and tawakol (reliance) in Allah (swt) find they cannot cope with their problems and turn to drugs because they appear to solve their problems.  Of course their problems remain and when the person becomes sober they once again find they can’t cope so repeat the drug use to gain relief.  So begins the process of habitual use that leads to addiction.

As Muslims we have the comfort of knowing that Allah (swt) purifies and strengthens us through trials and afflictions.  These trials can come as a result of our own wrong doing and or come our way to test and strengthen our faith and purify us from our sins.  We also have the comfort of knowing that we can rely on Allah (swt) to help us through our problems.

Allah (swt) says:

Qur’an Surah al “Ankabut 29:2-3

“Do the people think that they will be left to say “We believe” and they will not be tried?  But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars.”

Qur’an Surah al-Baqaroh 2:286

“Allah does not charge a soul except (with that within) it’s capacity.  It will have (the consequence of) what (good) it has gained, and it will bear (the consequence of) what (evil) it has earned….”

Qur’an Surah al-Mu’minun 23:62

“And We tax not any person except according to his capacity, and with Us is a record which speaks the truth, and they will not be wronged.”

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Qur’an Surah al-Mulk 67:2

“Who (Allah) has created death and life, that He may test you which of you is best in deed, and He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving.”

S’ad (raa) [radiallahu anhu – may Allah be pleased with him] reported that the Prophet Muhammad (saaw) [sollAllahu alayhi wassallam - Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him] said:

“The most in their suffering among the people are the prophets, then the best, then the (next) best.  One is afflicted in accordance with his deen (faith).  If his deen is firm, his affliction is hard, and if his deen is weak, his affliction is light.  Indeed, one would be so much subjected with adversity until he walks among the people without any sins.”

Recorded by Ahmed, at-Tirmithee and others, authenticated by al-Albaanee (Saheeh ul-Jaami’ no. 993)

Aisha (raa) narrated that once some pain afflicted the Prophet (saaw), causing him to suffer and turn about in his bed.  He (saaw) said to her:

“An ailment is intensified for the righteous.  Whenever a believer is afflicted by a hardship, whether it is a thorn or more, a sin is taken off from him because of it, and he is elevated by one rank (in jannah).”

Recorded by Ahmed.  Authenticated by al Haakim, ath-Thahabee and al-Albaanee.

Abu Hurairah (raa) reported that the Prophet (saaw) said:

“Whenever a Muslim is afflicted by harm from sickness or other matters, Allah will drop his sins because of that, like a tree drops it’s leaves.”

Al-Bukhari, Muslim and others.

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Why Can’t An Addict “Just Stop”?

Addicts cannot stop using drugs for a combination of reasons:

                             ·                 The addict has not got iman (faith with submisssion) or tawakol (reliance) on Allah (swt).

                             ·                 Mental and physical cravings for the drug.

                             ·                 The habitual addiction (the addicts lifestyle).

                             ·                 The original problem may not be resolved.

                             ·                 Fear of the horrors of withdrawal.

Behaviour And Character Of An Addict

The addict personality includes behaviour and characteristics such as:

                             ·                 Mood swings.

                             ·                 Unreliability.

                             ·                 Unable to finish projects.

                             ·                 Unexpressed resentment and secret hatreds.

                             ·                 Dishonesty;- lying to family, friends and others.

                             ·                 Withdraws from those who love him/her and isolates self.

                             ·                 Intentionally causes arguments with loved ones.

                             ·                 Uses intimidation, threats, violence.

                             ·                 May appear chronically depressed.

                             ·                 Pawning or selling anything of value and getting into increased debt.

                             ·                 May begin criminal activities to raise money for drugs.

The Relationship Between An Addict

And The Family

Most people naturally think that the solution to the problem is to get the addict to just stop using, then life will return to normal and all the problems will go away. Unfortunately it’s not that simple nor is it realistic.

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Firstly you cannot “just stop” an addict from using drugs.  There are spiritual, psychological and physical problems involved that have to be dealt with and these things need professional help and take time.

The addict has an enormous amount of control over the family.  He/she can escape the responsibility of facing up to doing something about his/her addiction in different ways.

For example the addict:-

 ·           Refuses to discuss the problem, withdraws from his/her loved

     ones and isolates him/herself.

 ·           Begs for forgiveness and promises that it won’t happen again.

 ·           Deliberately causes arguments to make the family angry with

      him/her, then uses this conflict to justify his/her using drugs.

The addict keeps his/her drug habit supplied on a daily basis by methods which can involve lying, manipulation, promises, threats, intimidation, emotional blackmail, stealing, borrowing money, pawning things of value etc.

This continual cycle of behaviour causes the family to become more and more anxious over the addict.  Eventually the family members become obsessed with the addict’s problems and the problems he/she causes the family. 

Family Actions and Reactions

The addict has the ability to manipulate the family into behaviour that actually “enables” him/her to continue using drugs.  The family needs to understand how their behaviour affects the situation and how to modify it.  When the family improves their own understanding, attitudes, actions and reactions this will not only help them to recover but also improve the addict’s chance of recovery, insha Allah.

The family members find themselves behaving in ways that they wouldn’t normally.  Some of these behaviours are:

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·            Lying, making up excuses for / pretending / covering up for addict’s behaviour in front of others.

·            Becoming antisocial so that they do not have to answer questions about the addict.

·            Always being cautious during conversation with people, unable to relax and talk freely.

·            Trying to out manipulate the addict.

·            Their thoughts are always about the addict; how to make them stop, what will happen next, the financial problems etc.

·            Unable to concentrate on tasks at hand.

·            Neglecting the needs and welfare of the other members of the family and themselves.

·            Becoming unwell;- suffering anxiety, depression, nervous tension, headaches etc.

·            Finding themselves nagging, arguing, lecturing and recalling the addict’s past mistakes.

·            Paying the addicts debts to keep them out of trouble and to cover up for them.

·            Hiding money and valuables.

·            Searching the addict’s room and belongings for drugs and associated tools.

·            Borrowing money for the addict.

·            Going to charity organizations for help to buy food and or pay bills.

Generally their lives become unmanageable and miserable.  Some families feel so ashamed of the problem that they cannot bring themselves to seek help.  Sometimes, the addict ends up in jail, which may mean partial relief for the family but not complete. The family suffers anxiety over the addict’s stay in jail and what is going to happen when he/she is released.  A woman whose husband is an addict, may be in the situation where he is not providing for her and the children properly.  She should not wait until there is no food in the house, the electricity, gas and telephone are being cut off, and eviction notices are being sent to the house because the rent has not been paid. She must take serious action.  Allah (swt) has decreed rights of support and protection for women and children, she should demand those rights and do what is necessary to obtain them.

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Sometimes a family member may have psychological problems or  an illness of their own.  In cases like this the family member needs professional help, and Islamic guidance.

How Does The Family Stop “Enabling” The Addict And Start Their Own Recovery?

As was mentioned before the behaviour of the family of the addict can actually “enable” the addict to continue using drugs. The bottom line is that the family’s behaviour protects the addict from facing up to his/her own responsibilities.  The family is always pretending, covering up for and bailing the addict out of trouble.

The family members of the addict are not the right people to treat the illness of the addict.  They are too close and emotionally involved and do not have the expertise.  The addict needs professional help.

It is imperative for the recovery of the family and hopefully the addict, that the family learns to modify their own behaviour.

Some examples are:

  ·           Do not try to “control” the addict, he/she is responsible for his/her own choices and actions.

  ·           Don’t nag, lecture and remind the addict of past mistakes.

  ·           Do not be drawn into arguments with the addict.  You don’t need the stress and the addict will use the arguing to justify his/her using.

  ·           Do not assist the addict by bailing out him/her of debt, lending or giving them money, lending them items to pawn etc.

  ·           Let them face the consequences of their own actions.

  ·           Calmly but firmly explain to the addict that their addiction is their own problem and if they choose to disobey Allah (swt) by using drugs then they can do it without your help.  But let them know that if and when they choose to take steps to get help to quit, then you will be there to help and support them  You can tell them that there are places they could go to for help,  perhaps offer them some literature to read.

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                             ·           So much of your time and energy has gone into the addict, now instead spend some time and energy on looking after yourself and your family.  Do some activities that will make you and them happy.

                             ·           Don’t tolerate the addict using drugs in the family home.

                             ·           Strictly guard your prayers,  read Qur’an often, for this is a healing and mercy

                             ·           Release the addict into the care of Allah, you have no power over his/ her addiction

                             ·           Have hope but remember to accept qadar Allah, [destiny]

                             ·           Keep company with other Muslims who are practicing their deen (Islamic way of life) correctly.

                             ·           Attend Islamic classes regularly and learn about your deen.  It will, insha Allah, increase your love for Allah (swt) and instill iman, tawakol and taqwa in your heart which will help you to cope with any problem in life, (insha Allah).

                             ·           Attend meetings with people who have similar problems.  Often sharing your experiences is helpful in the process of recovery.

As well as this, the family members should do some sincere soul searching.  Have they done their best to nurture their relationship with their loved one prior to the addiction?  Did they have good two-way communication? Did they practice Islam correctly and share their knowledge about the beauty and blessings of Islam.  They must answer honestly because they must be prepared to resolve relationship problems.  There is no guarantee but it may help their loved one to recover from their addiction, insha Allah.

Reliance on Allah (swt)

The individual family members must turn to Allah (swt), making sincere tauwbah (repentance) for their own sins and shortcomings, remember Allah’s favours and mercy with gratitude and humbleness, put their trust in and reliance on Allah (swt) as He has the power to do anything.

Allah (swt) says in Qur’an Surah ash-Shoora 42: 25

“ and it is He who accepts repentance from His servants and pardons misdeeds, and He knows what you do.”

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Qur’an Surah Hud 11; 123

“And to Allah belongs the unseen of the heavens and the earth and to Him return all affairs (for decision), so worship Him and put your trust in Him.  And your Lord is not unaware of what you do.”

Qur’an Surah  al-Imran 3: 150

“Nay, Allah is your Protector, and He is the Best of Helpers”

Qur’an Surah al “Ankabut 29:2-3

“Do the people think that they will be left to say “We believe” and they will not be tried?  But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars”

Qur’an Surah al-Baqaroh 2:286

“Allah does not charge a soul except (with that within) it’s capacity.  It will have (the consequence of) what (good) it has gained, and it will bear (the consequence of) what (evil) it has earned.

Accept that every person is accountable and responsible for his or her own choices and actions.

The next thing the family must understand and accept is that every person is accountable and responsible for his or her own choices and actions, and Allah (swt) will not help a person unless they open their heart to Him and ask His help sincerely.

Qur’an Surah al-Anfal 8: 53

“That is because Allah would not change the favour which He had bestowed upon a people until they change what is within themselves.  And indeed, Allah is Hearing and Knowing.” 

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Qur’an Surah Al-An`am 6:17

“And if Allah touches you with harm, none can remove it but He, and if He touches you with good, then He is able to do all things.”

Alhamdulillah, Allah (swt) hears the do`a (supplication) of His servants.  So make do`a to Allah (swt) in hope but always accept with patience the qadar that befalls, because you can’t change the past and Allah is with those who are patient.

Qur’an Surah Ash-Sharh 94:8

“And to your Lord turn your invocations”

Qur’an Surah Al-Anfaal 8:46

“And obey Allah and His Messenger, and do not dispute, lest you lose courage and your strength depart, and be patient.  Surely, Allah is with those who are patient.”

Sincere Advice For The Family Of The Addict

The family can offer the addict advice on where to go for help but the addict must take responsibility for their own recovery.  If, after repeated attempts to offer help, advice and support the addict still does not make any real effort to get help to recover and continues to cause his/her family misery and hardship, then the hard truth is that the best thing a family can do is to demand that the addict leave the family home and not return until they are clean from drugs.  The sooner the addict hits bottom, hopefully and insha Allah the sooner he/she will seek help.  It is often very difficult for a family to take such serious action.  Unfortunately though they will find that in the end, after maybe months or even years of living in pain with their addict, this is the action they will finally have to take.

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Supplications

Qur’an Surah Ash-Sharh 94:8

“And to your Lord turn your invocations”

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Supplication for seeking refuge with Allah from anxiety and sorrow etc.

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحُزْنِ ،

وَالْعَجْزِ والْكَسَلِ وَالْبُخْلِ وَالْجُبْنِ’

وَضَلْعِ الدَّيْنِ وَغَلَبَةِ الرِّجَالِ.

Allahumma innee a`oothubika minalhammi walhuzni,

wal`ajzi walkasali walbukhli waljubni,

wa doliddaini wa ghalabatirrojaal.

“O Allaah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow,

weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice,

the burden of debts and from being over powered by men.”

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Supplication when stricken with a mishap or overtaken by an event.

قَدَّرَ اللهُ وَمَا شَاءَ فَعَلَ.

حَسْبِيَ اللهُ وَنِعْمَ الْوَكِيلُ.

Qoddarollahu wamaa shaa’a fa`ala

Hasbiyallaahu wa ni`mal wakeel

“Allah has decreed and what He wills, He does”

“Sufficient is Allah for me and how fine a trustee (He is).”

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Supplication for one afflicted by a calamity

إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِليْهِ رَاجْعُونَ

اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيْبَتِي وَاخْلُفْ لِي خَيْراً مِنْهَا.

Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raaj`oon

Allahumma ajurnee fee museebatee wakhluf lee khoiyron minhaa.

“To Allah we belong and unto Him is our return.

O Allah, recompense me for my affliction and

replace it for me with something better.”

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Where To Go For Help

Some suggestions:

  ·           A Muslim doctor.

  ·           An Imam or Sheik who has knowledge and understanding of the problems associated with drug abuse.

  ·           Islamic Centres, Islamic Women’s organisations, Islamic Youth organisations.  [These may not be able to offer you immediate help, but your asking may motivate them to start working towards projects that will help in the future].

Many Muslims are reluctant to go to non-Muslim agencies for help and advice, fearing that the advice they receive will be un-Islamic.  This is understandable but until an Islamic alternative is established it is better to take what is good and beneficial from their knowledge and ignore what is not, rather than not seek help at all.

NOTE:  You and your family have the right to live in safety.  If you and or members of your family become victims of violence – get help!  In emergencies call  000 (Australia) for police assistance.  Or, if it’s not an emergency you may call your local Police Station.  They have special Domestic Violence Liaison Officers who can offer you help, and protection. 

The following is a list of Government and private agencies, which can help insha Allah.

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CEIDA

Centre for Education & Information on Drugs and Alcohol

Address:                                Rozelle Hospital Grounds

                                             Balmain Rd. Rozelle

Postal address:                       Private Mail Bag 6 Rozelle NSW 2039

Phone:                                   (02) 9818 0444

Email:                                    ceida@ceida.cs.nsw.gov.au

Website:                                http://www.ceida.net.au

Services:                                CEIDA is a branch of the NSW Health Dept. Their role is in research and education.  They offer help and support to organisations and individuals who work or want to work in this field.

NAR-ANON FAMILY GROUPS

Postal address:                        P.O. Box 1189

                                              Lane Cove NSW 1595  

Phone:                                    (02) 9418 8728 

Services:                                 Nar-anon Family Groups is an anonymous self-help fellowship for the family and friends whose lives are affected by the drug abuse in a loved one.  They provide literature and meetings in many areas.

NARCANON

Phone:                                    (02) 4377 1107

Website:                                 www.narconon.org

Services:                                 Drug Education and Rehabilitation

NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS

Address:                                 1^st Floor, 204 King St.

                                              Sydney NSW

Phone:                                    (02) 9212 3444

ADIS  -  Alcohol And Drug Information Service

Phone:  24 hours -                   (02) 9361 2111

HEALTH CARE INTERPRETER SERVICE

South West Syney                   (02) 9828 6088

West Sydney                          (02) 9840 3456

Central Syndey                       (02) 9515 3222

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LIFE LINE – Drug And Alcohol Councelling

Sydney                                     (02) 9951 5555

AL-ANON FAMILY GROUPS

Address:                                   Level 1, Trades Hall

                                                4 Goulburn St. Sydney NSW

Phone:                                      (02) 9264 9255

Address:                                   Allen Arcade

                                                114 Henry St. Penrith NSW

Phone:                                      (02) 4731 1442

Services:                                   Al-anon Family Groups is an anonymous self-help fellowship for the family and friends whose lives are affected by alcohol  abuse in a loved one. 

References

The Interpretation of the meanings of the Noble Qur’an in the English language by Dr.  Muhammad Taqi ud-Deen al Hilaali and Dr Muhammad Muhsin Khan

The Quran – English revised and edited by Saheeh International

Hadith - Sahih Al Bukhari

Dr. Tamer El-Kahil, MB. BS. Aleppo University, Syria. AMC.

FRACS I, Australia.

CEIDA - Centre for Education & Information on Drugs and Alcohol – Printed Resources

Nar Anon Family Groups – “A Guide For The Family of the Addict and Drug Abuser”

Narcanon – “The Life Cycle and Mechanics of Addiction”

May Allah grant His ummah forgiveness and mercy,

guidance and strength to pass the tests in our lives,

and grant us success in this life and the next. 

Ameen

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